The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. Those are the words of Dale carnige who certainly knows how to influence peoples than you and me. I used to say these lines again and again to myself whenever I found myself in a situation like that. I avoid arguments and if it’s a client I will admit whatever he say is right:). Recently I come across a situation, I was talking to a good friend of mine, he asked about my Blackberry 8900 and I said about its features and limitations. All of sudden he told me to throw away that mobile, what a nerve?? I am red hot, I swear I would have tear him apart if he is near me. Lucky hooligan he was not in the country during that conversation we had over phone. He said Nokia E72 is the best in the market and the whole world is going gaga for that model. I clinched my teeth, punched on the wall heavily, kicked the chair and controlled my voice then I said softly, “ well dude, may be you’re reading things on portals but I am using it and I know the value of BB”.
Basically I am a marketer and for a marketer it’s all about first impression. The client don’t have the time and need to change his views on you for the second time. If you’re wearing a lousy outfit on the first day, he will name you as “The filthy guy”, so the next time you appear in his reception in a thousand dollar Armani Suit he will remember you as “the filthy guy in an Armani suit”. So I always care about how I look and what I carry for a meeting. And my BB brings me good response wherever I go. Lately I found out a bond between my BB and me, we as a team are moving mountains. So his words fell as acid rain in my ears, he was hurting my feelings deeply by pulling out dirt on my buddy BB. All the time I am just holding myself firmly not to let loose. To push me to the extreme he said “ you will feel bad once your BB fell down and break into pieces and dust”. To my surprise I am still talking to him in the same pitch but clearly irritated by his supernatural instincts and cool comments. I said “boy if that’s going to happen I will buy a BB the next minute and I will call you from that”. If that was me listening at the other end I would have said “then, I will wait for your call dude” and I am grateful to god that he is not like me. I am very sarcastic and many of the guys fear me for my comments. If I want to be rude I will be real rude and mean, but I never wanted to be like that and I know it’s a curse and not a gift.
But even after all these I found no hostility in me. Instead I was laughing all the day at his comments whenever I took my BB out from my pocket with both hands for safety. Even now the thought of putting down my BB passes electricity through my veins. At the end of the day he is my best friend and I love him for what he is. The old saying by Dale carnige seems to be false when it comes to real friends. If you are friends you will see the good side of him even if you’re in a fist fight. ( not to hit him in that good side :) ) You can’t let them just walk away from your life because they don’t know how to argue. The bottom line is friendship is priceless not because friends are highly cultured because they are true. I am true to my friends and they are all true to me, at the end of the day that’s all it matters.
